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Are Your Thoughts Holding You Back?

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Inadequacy has always been a prominent feature of my life and disposition. Feeling like I am “enough” is something I’ve always struggled with. The pervading thoughts in my mind tend to center on my weaknesses and shortcomings. This evening I was laying on my bed, thinking. One question came to the forefront of my mind, “Why do I limit myself to being average instead of being extraordinary?” I have a vision for my life, a vision that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to achieve. To be honest, that’s a part of the problem…I don’t think I can achieve it. How will I ever get there if I’ve given up from the get go?

Thoughts can either empower or diminish you; they can make you scale any wall or cause you to get hit by a boulder. 

Throughout the past few years, I have learnt tremendous life lessons about people, career choices, and relationships. I know that the only way I can move forward is if I change how I think. I plan to do this by following these three key principles.

Principle #1: Positive Thoughts are a CHOICE

Do you realise how easy it is to think negatively? When a roadblock comes in your path, it’s easy to look at the glass as half empty. It takes great energy to choose to be positive instead. Each morning when we get out of bed, we have to choose to fill our minds with positive energy throughout the day. Make verbal proclamations such as, “I choose to think and live positively today.” The more you say it, the more you’ll begin to believe and live it.

Principle #2: Positive Thoughts are Diminished by Negative People

Choose who you let into your space wisely. We absorb the energy that surrounds us. So, if we’re surrounded by negative people, we will absorb their negative energy. However, if we surround ourselves with positive, ambitious, and goal-oriented people we will absorb their energy. We will be encouraged to think and live like them. This results in a happier life and more positive outcomes.

Principle #3: Positive Thoughts Make the Impossible Seem Possible

I am at a pivotal point in my life. Next July, I have to make a crucial decision in order to move forward. I know what needs to be done, but financial constraints are a major hindrance. Instead of allowing that to overwhelm me, I’m going to choose to believe that I can and will do it. I will find a way. I will get things done. The more positive I feel is the more likely things will fall into place. The same is true for you. Chanel positive energy and the pieces will begin to fit.

These three principles can be viewed as the foundation of life. The more positive we are, the happier we become and the more likely opportunities will come our way. Make it your mission to make positivity a choice each day, surround yourself with positive people, and view the impossible as possible. Life will sort itself out.



Striking the Right Life Balance

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The road to success (Image Source)

There are two types of people: those who spend money on things and those who spend money on experiences. Scrolling through Facebook a few months ago, I saw an image with this statement. It has stuck with me since. Yesterday, I was discussing the concept with one of my best friends. We were bemoaning the fact that our lives have become consumed by two things: work and stressing about the future. We made a decision; we have to start enjoying life while keeping our goals in check.

We are the type of women who are concerned about owning a home, building a family, and maintaining our independence. These lofty life goals come with immense pressure. At the end of the month, after I've paid all my bills and put away a little savings, there really isn't much left for me to do anything with. Nevertheless, I have been resolute in my resolve to find ways to save towards my lofty life goals. My resolve has facilitated my natural inclination to enjoy my own company. Why spend all of this money to spend time with my friends when I can stay at home and watch tv? The conversation I had with my friend yesterday has helped me answer that question. I've come up with 3 tips to help me focus on finding a balance between life of experiences and attaining my goals.

Tip #1: Budget Wisely

Budgeting is key to finding the right life balance. I believe in the principle of paying yourself first when you get your paycheque. However, this money is air-marked for accomplishing my lofty life goals. So, my entertainment money isn't coming from that source. This, therefore, means that I have to now decide to set aside an additional sum for entertainment. I work best when these outings are planned. Planned outings help me budget better, but I know that there will be times when my friends want to be spontaneous. I'm now going to make a small allowance for that in my budget.

Tip #2: Know that Some Experiences will be Worth the Price Tag

The main reason for me not having more fun life experiences is that these experiences are often quite pricey. However, with the right budgeting I know that I can enjoy some of these pricey experiences. Sometimes we just have to close our eyes and fork out the cash. Most of the times we don't regret it.

Tip #3: Always Keep Your Main Goals in the Spotlight

Have sensible fun. Don't succumb to the temptation to spend frivolously. Always keep your goals in sight so that you know when to reign yourself in. I know that I often do this at the expense of truly letting go and having fun, but I also know that I need to keep those goals in sight.

The road to success is going to be littered with many challenges. It's easy to become overwhelmed by the challenges. Therefore, it is important for all of us to be able to  value acquiring experiences. Having awesome experiences with your family and friends on a budget is possible and can lead to a happier life. I'm hoping that by following these tips, I will be able to find the right life balance. Hopefully, the same will be true for you.



A Beautiful Sunset

20140608-155036-57036883.jpg I was going through my photo album on my phone and I came across this picture. I had taken this picture while I was with my family at Jack Sprat at Treasure Beach last weekend. A sunset symbolizes so many things. For me, it symbolizes the end of a chapter of my life. As one chapter ends, another begins. I'm looking forward to the new beginnings.


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My Book

My Book Hello followers! My book is presently available in the Lulu bookstore and I would love for people to start buying, reading, and reviewing it. Click on the picture to be redirected to the Lulu bookstore where you can purchase the ebook. Within a month or two it will be available on the major ebook distribution sites. I'll keep you posted.

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The Cross Roads

Image Have you ever stood at an intersection and been confused by the choices you have? If you have no idea where you're going you're bound to get lost or go down the wrong path. On the journey of life we encounter many intersections that compel us to make difficult choices. Some of those choices take us on the right path while others lead us onto roads we would rather not have traversed.  So how can we make the right choices that lead us along the right paths?

Understand What You Want to Accomplish With Your Life

When you know where you want to be in life, your life begins to have direction. You will ensure that your journey takes you on paths that will help you to realise your dreams. If you have no idea what you want to accomplish with your life then now is the time to sit and think about it. We were created to do more than exist and we should therefore think about how we can live impactful lives.

Have a Connection With Your Creator

We all have different beliefs and serve different gods but I fervently believe that we all were created by a Supreme Being regardless of what we call Him. If this being took the time to create us, He must have a special purpose for us. Think of a craftsman who labours for hours to create an exquisite dining table. His aim is to create something that can serve a purpose in someone's home and he ensures that he takes the time and effort to make it perfect. Our Creator took similar time and effort to create us and He therefore wants us to have a relationship with Him so that we can understand what He created us to do. Life is meaningless without this connection to our Creator.

Be Able to Identify Detractors

Sometimes, something along a particular path attracts us and like a horse being led by a carrot, we follow blindly so focused on getting what we see along that path. Little do we realise that this path is not the one created for us and what we were drawn to was only a distraction from what is meant for us. Oftentimes, we know deep down that something isn't right with what we're doing or allowing to control us. If you have this feeling, then you are on the wrong path and you need to find your way back to where you should be.

Be Patient

Some journeys are longer than others. You may be at a point in your life where you're frustrated with your current situation. However, don't let that frustration cause you to make rash decisions. Patience yields good results. Think about Bill Gates and Microsoft. His success did not happen overnight. It took many years of hard work and dedication and patience. Good things will happen for you in the right time.

Life is all about learning and growing and we have to make bad choices as a part of the growing process. However, if you follow the tips I've outlined, I believe that you will stay on the path that is right for you.