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Striking the Right Life Balance

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There are two types of people: those who spend money on things and those who spend money on experiences. Scrolling through Facebook a few months ago, I saw an image with this statement. It has stuck with me since. Yesterday, I was discussing the concept with one of my best friends. We were bemoaning the fact that our lives have become consumed by two things: work and stressing about the future. We made a decision; we have to start enjoying life while keeping our goals in check.

We are the type of women who are concerned about owning a home, building a family, and maintaining our independence. These lofty life goals come with immense pressure. At the end of the month, after I've paid all my bills and put away a little savings, there really isn't much left for me to do anything with. Nevertheless, I have been resolute in my resolve to find ways to save towards my lofty life goals. My resolve has facilitated my natural inclination to enjoy my own company. Why spend all of this money to spend time with my friends when I can stay at home and watch tv? The conversation I had with my friend yesterday has helped me answer that question. I've come up with 3 tips to help me focus on finding a balance between life of experiences and attaining my goals.

Tip #1: Budget Wisely

Budgeting is key to finding the right life balance. I believe in the principle of paying yourself first when you get your paycheque. However, this money is air-marked for accomplishing my lofty life goals. So, my entertainment money isn't coming from that source. This, therefore, means that I have to now decide to set aside an additional sum for entertainment. I work best when these outings are planned. Planned outings help me budget better, but I know that there will be times when my friends want to be spontaneous. I'm now going to make a small allowance for that in my budget.

Tip #2: Know that Some Experiences will be Worth the Price Tag

The main reason for me not having more fun life experiences is that these experiences are often quite pricey. However, with the right budgeting I know that I can enjoy some of these pricey experiences. Sometimes we just have to close our eyes and fork out the cash. Most of the times we don't regret it.

Tip #3: Always Keep Your Main Goals in the Spotlight

Have sensible fun. Don't succumb to the temptation to spend frivolously. Always keep your goals in sight so that you know when to reign yourself in. I know that I often do this at the expense of truly letting go and having fun, but I also know that I need to keep those goals in sight.

The road to success is going to be littered with many challenges. It's easy to become overwhelmed by the challenges. Therefore, it is important for all of us to be able to  value acquiring experiences. Having awesome experiences with your family and friends on a budget is possible and can lead to a happier life. I'm hoping that by following these tips, I will be able to find the right life balance. Hopefully, the same will be true for you.

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Confidence and Self-Perception

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One of my friends constantly repeats this famous Marcus Garvey quote to me whenever I begin to wallow in self-pity. It portrays a very powerful message that I'm only now beginning to embrace. If suffering from a severe lack of confidence was a recognized psychological condition, I would be diagnosed with it. Lacking self-confidence only produces defeat and causes you to see every challenge as an insurmountable obstacle. Don't get it twisted though. Having confidence doesn't mean being narcissistic or full of too much pride. Confidence requires having a healthy view of one's self and abilities while humbly accepting the fact that there will always be others out there who are better than you. So, how can someone who has a negative self-image develop this healthy sense of confidence? This is a question that I constantly ask myself and I think I have finally discovered some possible answers.

Find What You Love

There is something magical about finding something that you're truly passionate about. I have found that I truly enjoy writing and I function at my best when I am sitting in front of my laptop pouring my thoughts onto the computer screen. When you realize that something really comes to you naturally, you begin to truly believe that you have something to offer to the world. Finding a passion is more difficult for some people than others. However, it isn't impossible. Keep dabbling in things that interest you and one day you'll truly discover what really makes your heart sing.

Constantly Look for Learning Opportunities

Oftentimes the areas where we lack confidence are the areas where we have the most inadequacies. It's easy to be confident in something you're naturally gifted at, but it's much harder to feel that same level of confidence in something you feel you lack the ability to do. I fervently believe that each of us can do anything that we set out minds to. I know the areas in which I feel most inadequate and I have decided that, instead of lamenting on how incapable I feel, I am going to constantly look for advice from those who are gifted in the area and do my own research. Once I do these things and implement what I've learnt, I am sure improvement will follow.

Believe in Yourself

No one else is going to feel as strongly about your dreams as you do. You are the master of your happiness and emotions. It is amazing how simply saying the words "I can" with great conviction can change the way you perceive and act on things. The word can't should not be in your vocabulary. Believe in the beautiful person you are and have the potential to become.

Don't be defeated by your lack of confidence. Make a decision today to truly believe in who you are so that you can move forward into your destiny.

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