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Under Advisement

In my devotions this morning, I was reading the story of Rehoboam in 2 Chronicles 10 and it amazed me that Rehoboam was foolish enough to disregard the good advice the elders were giving him and instead following the advice of his counterparts. Rehoboam was Solomon's son who  succeeded him as king immediately following his death. The Israelites had been subjected to heavy labour under Solomon's rule and they, along with Jeroboam, went to Rehoboam to request that their burden be lightened. Rehoboam consulted with the elders who had advised his father when he was alive, and they told him to listen to the people since in doing so they would be loyal to him. However, that advice didn't cut it for Rehoboam so he consulted with his peers and they told him to increase the Israelite's labour. He followed their advice and,as a result, the only Israelites who remained with him were those from the tribe of Judah. If he had listened to the advice of the elders the kingdom would not have been divided under his rule. When I began to reflect on the story, I realised that I often do the same thing. I will listen to the advice of someone who is saying what I want to hear and reject the advice of someone else who has my best interest at heart. Advice is something that we freely give to others, but when it's time for us to take some for ourselves we have a major problem accepting it. Older and more experienced people usually give the best advice but sometimes our own friends can be pointing us in the right direction but we are too blind to see it. So, how do we know when the advice we are being given is the best advice? Here are some of my suggestions:

1. Does It Contradict What You're Thinking? This may not be true in all cases but sometimes we know deep down in our hearts that something is wrong with the way we are thinking. If someone is giving you advice that really causes you to do some soul searching, that advice may just be what is best for you. For instance, someone may be advising you to invest in a particular project because of its potential for profit. However, although you know that the person is right, you neglect the advice because you are afraid of the risk and you therefore miss an opportunity.

2. Is the person speaking from an informed position? I am not necessarily saying that the person has to be experienced. To be honest, experienced people can give the best advice but they can also give the worst. What I am trying to point at is the need for us to discern if the person has truly thought about the situation and is giving us advice based on that information that he or she has processed. Sometimes, people tend to overlook the real underlying issues that are causing the problems and therefore give advice that isn't helpful. When someone takes the time to understand the situation and then provide you with advice then this shows that he or she is interested in providing you with the best advice he or she can possibly give.

3. Does the person have your best interest at heart? Sometimes, people can be very vindictive and can only be looking for ways to tear us down. These people could even be our own friends or family members. It is therefore critical for us to be able to discern what the person's intentions are for giving the advice. Will they benefit and you suffer if you follow the advice? Or if they are not involved in the problem, will they give you advice that will make you suffer?

The advice we take can make or break us. If Rehoboam had followed the advice of the elders then he would not have had more than half of the Israelites rejecting him as king. Be careful of the advice you take and closely follow these steps to know if the advice you're being given is right for you.

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Waiting on God

How do we really trust God when we have so many issues trusting some of the people in our own lives? When life is taking a completely different course from what we want or expect, how do we trust that God has our best interests at heart? When we are jobless or stuck in a career that we desperately want to get out of, how do we trust that God will provide? Trusting God has been something that I have really struggled with over the past few years. When I was younger I had no issue trusting that God would work things out but I think that as I got older and began to view the world differently ( and also saw my life taking unexpected turns) I began to doubt. There is a journal that one of my students gave me for Teachers Day that has the infamous Jeremiah 29:11 passage on it. It says "For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord,'plans to prosper and not to harm you, to give you HOPEand a FUTURE." This is my favourite passage of Scripture because God said those words to Jeremiah in a period in his life where he felt lost and hopeless. I feel the same way but every time I say that passage I am reminded of the fact that God has not forgotten me and that whatever He allows to happen in my life will help me to prosper as long ad I am faithful to Him.

Another passage that has helped me when I have really started to doubt God is Psalm 139:13. It says "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together on my mother's womb." Have you ever watched someone knit? It is a tedious task that takes hours of dedication and detailed work. When the creator of a knitted garment is finished then he or she is filled with a sense of pride because of what has been created and then allows that knitted garment to be used in a useful way by another individual. If God could spend so much time to make me, then I must have some worth and value and He must want what's best for me in order for me to make Him proud. He will also guide me to do things that will benefit others and help me to serve my purpose.

So, whenever you feel doubtful about what God is doing in your life, just remember those two verses. God took the time to create you so you have to trust that He is doing what is best for you to help you to make your impact in the world.

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Timing

In this fast paced world that we live in everything is about the urgency of the here and now. Our food needs to be fast, our cars need to be even faster and if anything takes too long we get upset. Sometimes if we just sit back and WAIT we would realise that better things are out there or we could avoid getting ourselves into negative situations. My life thusfar has been all about that "things need to happen now" mentality. It's therefore no surprise that I feel like much of my life has been a disappointment. However, upon reflection I realise that everything that has happened to me thusfar has really been about the right and the wrong times for certain things.

When I became Deputy Hall Chairperson for Rex Nettleford Hall I believe that God was telling me that it was my time to learn more about who he wants me to be as a person. Yes, many of my weaknesses were evident throughout my tenure but one thing I took from it is the need for me to grow stronger as a person and embrace new experiences more willingly. Most importantly, I learnt the immense importance of allowing God to direct every facet of my life and to fully commit all my plans to Him. If I had done that so many things would have been different. That year of my life was my TIME to learn these valuable lessons.

Regarding relationships, I believe the timing was right for me and my ex to have gotten together. Why? There were so many things that I learnt by being with him that I would not have learnt from anyone else. I learnt how important it is to develop my own circle of friends and to not rely on my partner to be there all the time. I learnt the importance of being more open to life and having confidence in myself just by observing his interactions and the many opportunities that came along his path just because of the type of person he is. I learnt how to truly and deeply care for someone....an important lesson that I know will make any future relationship I have an excellent one.

In this season of my life where I realise that someone I liked long ago is probably the one I've needed all along, I have begun to realise that maybe my time with him has passed. Or maybe it just is that now isn't the time for me to be with him....only God knows. All I know is that I'm going to slow down the pace of my world and rely on the RIGHT timing....God's timing.

As  I pray and hope that a recent job prospect that was presented to me works out, I once again know that I need to appreciate the value of timing. If it just isn't my time to be in that space then it just isn't my time.  No need to get depressed or worried. it's just time for me to find out what is needed for this particular time in my life.

By sharing this, I hope you are able to reflect on your own life and determine whether the timing is right for you to take certain actions. Slow down your world so that you don't miss any opportunities. Embrace the RIGHT timing.

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