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Procrastination

khjkkh You have an important meeting next week Tuesday and you have to make an excellent presentation. The more you think about it is the more you know you have to get cracking. But, there's this amazing concert that's happening tonight. All of your friends are going. Besides, you'll have all weekend to prepare. So, you go to the concert and have an awesome time. On Saturday, your girlfriend wants your help with fixing her dilapidated kitchen cupboards. Who knew that would take the whole day?  When you got home you were too tired to do anything. Most definitely you'll start working on the presentation on Sunday. On Sunday morning your mom invites you for a spontaneous family get together at your old home. She vows to disown you if you don't go. So you give in. You can work on the presentation on Monday. Before you know it, Monday night comes and you have nothing prepared. So, you have to stay up till the crack of dawn putting something together for Tuesday's presentation. You walk into the meeting tired as hell, but you deliver something. Your boss liked it, but you know you could have done much better and truly gained his respect if you had started working on the presentation sooner.

Does this scenario sound like something that would happen to you?  If it does then you are a true procrastinator. Some people produce their best work under pressure. If you know that you don't fit this description, procrastination is definitely something you should avoid. Here are some tips to help you break free from this bad habit.

Create a Scheduled Checklist

When you have a task to complete, list all of the steps that are required to complete it and the date by which you should complete each step.  The best place for you to put your checklist is on your smartphone or tablet since you use those devices frequently. On these devices you can also create alerts that will tell you that it's time to start a particular task. The following is an example of a checklist that  I had created for my GRE preparation a few months ago.

Task                                                                                  Date to be Completed

Practice the Verbal Component                           January 10, 2014

Practice the Quantitative Portion                        January 17,2014

Complete a Full Practice Test                                January 25, 2014

Strengthen Weak Areas                                            February 1, 2014

I had very little time to prepare for the exam because of when I registered. This is the reason for the timeline being so short. However, I hope you get a general idea of how to create a scheduled checklist for your task.

Learn to Say No

We all would much rather have fun than do work. However, there are times when work has to take precedence over fun. The better you are at your job is also the more likely you'll be promoted. So, if you really don't have the time to meet the demands of your friends and family, explain your situation and tell them no. They may initially be hurt but they'll get over it after awhile. It's also possible that the sooner you start is the sooner you'll be able to finish. So, you may not even have to tell a lot of people no.

Focus

When you say no you may begin to think about how much fun you could be having with your friends or family.  This can be counterproductive since you won't be able to focus to complete the task before you. Learn to train your mind to focus. Block everything else out and pour your energy into getting the assignment done. When it's done you can go and have fun.

 

Procrastination is something you can overcome. Just do what you're supposed to do when you're supposed to do it. It'll reduce your stress and probably give you even more time to do what you really want to do.

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Setting Life Goals

How often have you gone to a workshop or a leadership training session and heard about setting SMART goals? We know that our goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timebound but what happens when we unexpected things happen in life that prevent us from achieving our SMART goals? I have three tips that I believe can help us all deal with the disappointments life will throw in our paths.

never-give-upNever give up. Life will ALWAYS be challenging; it's how you choose to deal with it that matters.

no limits

Don't be limited by your present constraints. The average person never has enough financial resources or support to achieve some of the positive things he or she wants to accomplish in life. Embrace your adversity and work hard to overcome it.

right people

Avoid things and people that will affect your ability to attain your goals. The right people, habits, and attitude go a long way.

Never give up on your dreams and the goals you have set for your life. Keep focused and work hard and you will accomplish great things.

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Know Thyself

Image Who am I? Seems like a simple question right? But if you really pause to think about it...what would your response be? Personally, I would give a generic answer such as, "Hi. I'm Christine and I'm a caring person."  However, truly knowing oneself extends far beyond the superficial and forces us to embrace every facet of who we are (both good and bad; both strengths and weaknesses).

I could very easily point out everything I dislike about myself and I have yet to truly embrace the good qualities that I have. As a result, I tend to look for someone to show me what good there really is in me and this, naturally, leads to problems in the intimate relationships I have had. Before you can share yourself with someone else you have to be able to appreciate and accept every facet of your being....you have to be able to know and love who you are. Loving yourself means that you understand your strengths and weaknesses and you know how to minimise your weaknesses and maximise your strengths.

Comparison is one of the things that leads to self-hatred and low self esteem. Trust me, I've been there and done that. However, we have to realise that there will ALWAYS be someone who is better than us or who has more talents than we do. The moment we are able to stop looking at what others have and begin to strengthen what we already possess is when we have truly discovered the meaning of our lives. Look at it this way, people go to the gym to develop their physique. The more they work out is the stronger and more toned they become. If they don't work out they go back to square one and are therefore not able to become the "sexy beasts" they know they can become. Similarly, if we don't do things to develop the strengths we have, they will become underdeveloped and we won't be able to maximise our true potential.

I am beginning my journey of self discovery and I hope that this will help me to have an excellent relationship with my life long partner in the future. Will you begin to embrace who you are and truly LOVE yourself?

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