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Living a Balanced Life


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Balance is a word that is commonly associated with equity and justice. However, many of us often fail to realize how crucial balance is for our survival. The vestibular (balance) system in the body is used to keep us balanced so that we're not toppling over ourselves. We also balance our cheque books so that we don't end up wallowing in debt. There is night to balance out the day and sun to brighten the rain. Balance is a crucial aspect of life. Many people, however, neglect this point when considering how they live their lives. Some people work continuously and make no time for fun while others make time for fun but no time for work. When your life is imbalanced there can be several social and physical repercussions. You may "burn out" from being overworked or you may never be able to hold a job because you're having too much fun. So, how can you start to live a more balanced life?

Determine Where There is an Imbalance

The first step in creating a balanced life is determining where there is imbalance. There are three key areas that you should assess in order to measure imbalance. These areas are shown in the table below along with the questions you should ask yourself in order to assess how deeply involved you are in these areas.

Professional Life Relationships Social Life
  1. Am I working beyond the normal work hours more than once per week?
  2. Is my focus solely on earning more money?
  3. Do I never have time for my family because I am so caught up with work?
  4. If anyone wants to find me they know they can look for me in my office?


  1. Is your partner the only person you focus on?
  2. Do you and your partner have time to explore individual hobbies or are you always together?
  3. Do you depend on your partner for all of your needs?
1.  Do you spend too much time with your friends?

2. Are you going out more than twice per week?

3. Does your social life affect your professional life?

Let's discuss each category.

Professional Life

Your job requires you to work for a certain number of hours each day. Some people work a 40 hour work week while others may work for longer periods. The smartest people are those who use their time at work to complete all their work tasks. They know that nothing is going to be coming home with them and if something can't be completed today it will have to be completed when they get to work the following work day. People who do this are better able to spend quality time with their families and tend to be healthier because they're not overworked.

Your life goals cannot solely be about making money. Money is fleeting and can be taken away in an instant. The most important things in life are the relationships you build with the people around you. Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with being ambitious and attempting to rise to the top through hard work. However, this should not be at the expense of your friends and family.


Sometimes we can become so consumed with our relationships that we don't have time for anyone else. Relationships like these are usually unhealthy. Yes, it is important to spend time with your partner and enjoy being together. However, you both need some space sometimes to explore your hobbies and bond with your friends. You also need to be able to stand on your own two feet. You can't depend on your partner to be and do every single thing for you.

Social Life

Now, there's nothing wrong with having a little fun. However, everything should be done in moderation. Think about all of the time that you spend lyming. Is it taking up too much of your time?

Make the Necessary Changes

When you have identified the area of imbalance, it is time for you to make some life altering changes. If you spend you spend too much time working then it's time for you to be wiser in how you spend your work hours. If you are too absorbed in your relationship it's time to step back and reflect. If your social life is compromising your professional life, it's time for you to think about how you spend your time. If you don't think that you can make these changes alone, ask one of your friends to be your accountability partner.

Living a balanced life is important. Do what you need to do in order to create balance in your life.



Investing in Your Development

How can I become a better person? Almost everyday I wake up and ask myself that question. Becoming a better person helps you to ensure that you will leave a positive mark in the world when you die. I believe that the following steps can help us become better people: Know Your Priorities There will always be people who challenge what you believe in and will try to sidetrack you from what you need to do to grow. When you know what you stand for, noone can stand in your way. However, how do we know what our major priorities should be? I believe that as a Christian my number one priority should be strengthening my relationship with God. If there are things in my life that are getting in the way of that then I need to get rid of them. My second priority is advancing my career. In order to fulfill the objectives needed to meet this priority I need to ask myself these questions: 1. Do I have the education and skills needed to enter the career path I have choosen? 2. How do I get a job in the field I am interested in? 3. What education and skills do I need to have in order to be promoted? The third priority that I believe I should have is looking for ways to answer the question "How can I help people?". This leads me to my next point.

Learn to be Selfless Very few people are born with the natural ability to give their time and resources willingly to help others. Despite this fact, I believe that this is a skill that we all can learn. When we help others, we are able to become better people ourselves.

Use your Strengths to Your Advantage I tend to be very negative about myself and focus solely on my flaws. These thoughts are not beneficial to anyone's mental well being and can only lead to negative thoughts and actions throughout each day. Yes, we should be aware of our flaws but we should also be aware of our strengths. Although I am still discovering what my strengths are, I realise how important it is for me to embrace and develop them in order to create a healthy self image. Do things and get training, if necessary, to develop your strengths.

See Your Health As Important I am always thinking about my calorie intake and how what I am eating is not good for my health. However, I have never done much to put my thoughts into action. It is very hard to make a decision to live a healthy lifestyle but doing so can only bring positive energy into your life. I started exercising again and as I go through each day I feel as though I have more energy and the pain that I was feeling has vanished. Taking care of your physical well being while you're young means that when you get older you will have fewer issues to deal with as it relates to your health.

What will you do today to become the best you? Begin each day with the question "How can I become a better person today?" and take the necessary steps to make that happen.