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Finding True Love


The raindrops falling on the window panes remind me so much of the sadness I feel inside. I have loved so deeply and completely and have been hurt in different ways more than once. These experiences have led me to wonder if I will ever find the love I desire. How many of you find yourselves in similar situations? There is no way to avoid getting hurt and all of our experiences help to make us stronger, but what can we really do that will help us to find the love we desire?

Appreciate Being Alone

Being single is a blessing because it helps you to discover more about yourself. The more you understand and love yourself is the more capable you are of creating a valuable relationship with someone. Spend more time with your friends and become involved in activities that will help you discover your interests. Take risks and learn to enjoy life instead of wallowing in self-pity when you see couples who are madly in love.

Know Your Worth

When you know what you stand for and what you deserve, no one can take you for granted and treat you less than you deserve to be treated. Value your body, your time, your money, and your spirituality. As Margret Hatcher once said, "Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the high road to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction".

Find Comfort and Support from the Right Person

I have one friend who always comes to my mind first when I feel down and want someone to cheer me up. The problem is that he loves me and I love him but we aren't willing to commit to each other which makes the friendship more complicated. He always finds a way to comfort me but he also always finds a way to break my heart. This highlights the importance of finding the right support system which is oftentimes better when the person is the same gender as you.

Don't Give Up

I believe that love is out there for everyone, waiting to be found. Though I feel like giving up many times and resorting to living a life alone, I know that that is not God's plan for me. Don't give up...the right man or woman will come along one day.

We can all find true love but while we're searching we can also do things that will guard our hearts. Also, don't let your past experiences prevent you from moving forward into what could be the best relationship of your life. Use your past to inform and strengthen your present and future.



What Makes a Strong Relationship?

tumblr_mq0x9nDqIx1rataypo1_400 So, you've found Mr. Right and you've been with him for awhile. Everything seems so perfect that it's almost too good to be true. How do you keep this strong, healthy relationship going?

Understand the Love Languages

Gary Chapman, world renowned minister and author, coined a very interesting term that I believe should be the foundation of all relationships...the five love languages. When you understand what your partner's love language is, you are better able to help him feel loved. Some men have "acts of service" as their primary love language which means that when their women do small tasks for them, they feel loved. If you know that your man loves when his dinner is cooked and the house is clean then put in the effort to ensure these needs are met. Conversely, he should also understand your love language so that he is able to fulfill what you need to feel loved. My primary love languages are "quality time" and "words of affirmation". I really love when my man makes an effort to spend time with me....this is very important to me. I also feel loved when he tells me I'm beautiful and says things to inspire me and boost my mood. It is crucial that you both understand each other in this way so that you can meet each other's needs to feel loved.


Whenever two people spend lots of time together and are in each other's spaces for prolonged periods of time, there is bound to be conflict. Some couples argue while others avoid each other in order to deal with conflicts. However, I believe that the best way to deal with conflicts is to approach them calmly and talk them out. Talking them out means that you understand the need to listen to what each other is saying and not accuse each other. Using "I" statements instead of "You" statements can help to relieve the feeling of accusation. For example, instead of saying "You're always out with your friends and you never spend time with me", you can say "I feel neglected and lonely when you spend so much time with your friends. I feel as though you are hardly home." Effective communication keeps a healthy relationship going.

Break any Existing Monotony

Sometimes, couples can become so comfortable that they end up taking the romance out of their relationships. Keep the flame alive by going on exciting adventures together and making time to enjoy new experiences together. Probably you can try zip lining or something else out of the norm together. You would be surprised at how these simple things can open your eyes to things you never knew about your partner and draw you closer together.

Good relationships are rare so if you have one, do everything that you can to hold on to it.