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What Makes Him Mr. Right

ffhgfg It has often been said that the best person to get into a relationship with is someone who is the complete opposite of who you are. Of course you'd have to share some core values, but the difference in personalities helps to add spice to the relationship. At least that's what we've been told. Here, what works for magnets (where opposite poles attract) is being applied to the one ting that unites two people on deeply intimate levels- a relationship. People are starkly different from magnets. We're dynamic and colourful- a juxtaposition of right and wrong. There is, therefore, no rule or book or school of thought that can truly dictate what makes an individual right for you. It's something you discover on your own. The following are some tips that can help you on the road to discovery. Discovering Mr. Right is something only you can do, but these tips can help guide you in the process.

Understand Who You Are

There is no way that you're going to find the RIGHT person if you are completely clueless about who you are.  When you don't understand who you are, yon begin to look for answers in the people you surround yourself with. Some of these people may take advantage of that and only leave you more damaged and confused. Understanding who you are is a process that takes time. There are some people in their twenties who are still completely lost. If you are one of these people (maybe you're not in your twenties, but you're still lost) then you can use the QDR strategy to begin the journey of self-discovery.

Q- Question

Ask yourself important questions. What do you believe? Why do you believe what you believe? What are your dreams? Where do you want to go? Who do you want to be? You will discover the answers to these questions overtime, but the point is to seriously think about them. They are the gateway to the next step on the journey.

D-Discover

The only way that you are going to be able to test whether or not your answers are correct is through experience. Go out more. Interact with people more. Step outside of your comfort zone.

R-React

When Thomas Edison discovered that he could solve the problem of a lack of bright, steady light in the night time, he didn't just sit on his idea. Instead, he reacted and created one of the most useful inventions- the light bulb. As you discover more about who you are, react by gaining more experiences in what you enjoy and believe. Stand true to your values. Doing these things will help you attract the kind of person you'd want to spend a lifetime with.

Be Wary of Who You Spend Your Time With

Your life partner isn't necessarily going to be a random stranger you meet at some dingy bar. Instead, he more than likely will be that friend you've had for months or years. This truth means that you need to be careful about who you allow into your inner circles. Don't keep people who don't respect who you are. Even if your personalities and values differ, that respect will prevent them from leading you astray.

Don't Be Afraid to Give Someone Who Is Similar to You a Chance

It is true that we are often attracted to people with personalities opposite to our own. So, a quiet and reserved woman may be attracted to a more outgoing and verbose man. Being with that type of person helps you to discover things about yourself that you may never have discovered with someone with a personality similar to yours. The flip side to this, however, is that people who are opposites often don't understand each other. In fact, they began to irritate each other after awhile. For instance, the verbose man may eventually become annoyed by the very quiet woman.

This doesn't mean that you can't find Mr. Right in someone opposite to you, however. It simply means that you shouldn't rule out someone with a personality similar to yours either. He may just be the one for you.

 

There are no hard fast rules when it comes to relationships. What is true, however, is that you need to understand who you are and what you stand for in order to attract the man who is right for you. He may already be within your reach...you just need to open your eyes and get rid of your checklist. At the end of the day it's about who you're happy with. It's about the person who brings out the best in you while you bring out the best in him. It's about the man who can be your best friend and who can accept you for who you are, flaws and all. It's also about you being able to be all of these things for him as well.

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Is There Really a Perfect Relationship?

sfsdsd When most women think about a relationship, they think about a man who meets all of their criteria. She thinks about a man who is not only physically attractive, but also the man who can provide her with everything she needs. After all, a woman can't expect anything else when that is all that is portrayed in the media. These high expectations often leave a woman terribly disappointed when a man does not meet all of her expectations. Little does she realize, however, that although he may not be a perfect man, he may be the man who is perfect for her.

Identifying Love

Love is often inexplicable. Have you ever seen a couple and wondered how THOSE two people could end up together? She may be highly educated and he may have never graduated from high school. Or, she may be incredibly beautiful but he may be not so pleasant to look at. It is important for you to remember, however, that their relationship goes far beyond what you see on the surface. Love knows no boundaries and when you have found it, it's hard to let go.  So, you may have the perfect man or woman right in front of you, but you may be to afraid to admit it because he or she isn't what you expected. It may be wiser to give this person a chance and embrace the love he or she has to give. You may live to regret it if you don't.

Nothing is Ever Perfect

We often think of perfection as being without flaws. In fact, the Merriam Webster dictionary defines perfection as:

  1. "having no mistakes or flaws
  2. satisfying all requirements
  3. corresponding to an ideal standard or abstract concept"

However, this concept of perfection is only possible in a utopian society.  There is no human being who has no mistakes or flaws and will meet every item on your checklist. Stop looking for perfection because perfection doesn't exist.

This concept is especially true for the survival of a relationship. When a partner in a relationship either makes a mistake or does not meet up to the other's expectations, most couples are ready to call it quits. If you view your relationship as imperfect, however, you will be better able to work through the mistakes and problems and therefore strengthen your relationship.

The Best Relationship is a Happy Relationship

Essentially, the best relationship is one in which both partners are happy. Happiness means different things to different people so it is important for you to find out what makes both you and your partner happy. Believe it or not, the couples you believe have the "perfect" relationships have their fair share of challenges. However, they have learnt to deal with their issues together and find happiness with each other. That's what keeps some people happily married for over 50 years.  Start creating a happy relationship instead of trying to create a perfect one.

 

 

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